The challenges you need to go through as a first time mother

A few years back, I still have some questions in mind such as what it feels like to become a first time mother, or the exact feeling of a girl who became a first time mom at a young age, like those girls who became pregnant during their teenage years. In this entry, I’m going to share with you guys the challenges I’ve faced for being a first time mom a couple of years back, and up to this very day.

Before, I thought becoming a mother will be that easy. And all I imagined was something like “I really want to have a daughter, a “mini me” something to that effect. I want to dress her up, or see her with those cute little outfits, and I want to give her all the cute stuffs or toys I’ve seen on the store. These were all the things I had in mind when I was still single.

Nevertheless, when I became a first time mother, everything has changed dramatically since it unveiled the reality of what exactly life is, and it actually taught me the real meaning of what motherhood is all about. I am a young mom myself, and I had my first baby in my early 20’s. However, when I had her, I could honestly say that I’m ready to embrace motherhood already even if I’m still young then. I remembered back then how my mom would remind me almost every single day on how hard it is to become a mom, and I was like “don’t worry mom I can handle this and I will do everything I can just to be the best mother for my child,” since I thought everything will be smooth and I can manage everything.

I’m just very thankful to my mother for the advices and all the things she imparted just to guide me in my journey through motherhood. And as we all know, mother knows best, that’s why I could say, what she had taught me through the years in terms of pregnancy, and as well as raising my daughter were really the best information I got than what were written in the books I’ve read.

At times, when we were still young, we have this mind-set that the hardest part of being a mother was the pregnancy stage. When you carry your child in your womb for 9 months, and when you have to experience all those annoying signs and symptoms such as the morning sickness, the mood swings, the loss of appetite, constipation, and so on. But once you gave birth, we think that everything is manageable or everything is easy as 123, since we believe we already passed the toughest part of being a first time mother. However, the challenges won’t end there since it is still the beginning of our journey. And this thing was exactly I believed in, a few years back when I finally gave birth, but after a couple of months, I realized the truth was exactly the opposite of what I used to believe in, there were still few rough roads that I need to pass through. Nevertheless, those challenges were very necessary for me to become the best mom that I can be and even if it sounds ironic, those challenges I went through really helped me to appreciate motherhood more.

Furthermore, once you gave birth, one of the biggest responsibilities in your life takes place, and that is to make sure that you’ll the best mother to your child. You’ll now focus on the welfare of your child. You’ll also say goodbye to some of the things you used to do when you still have a single status since the top of your list now won’t be shopping or going to the salon with your friends, or go bar hopping with them, but your main priority now is your child, and how you could give her all the best things that this world has to offer.

Nevertheless, motherhood doesn’t necessarily mean your life would be boring since I have mentioned above that there will be some changes when it comes to your priorities in life, and there will be a lot of adjustments in life, and I totally understand that it’s just so hard to adjust on things, especially if you’re already used to all those stuffs, and it is indeed really hard to let go of the things that you enjoy doing. However, the key here is that you have to be ready emotionally, psychologically, and physically before you enter motherhood. You should be ready in these aspects so that you’ll be more willing to sacrifice things. And you also have to ensure that your partner is also ready in those 3 aspects and in financial aspect as well. You have to make sure that both of you have already anticipated if what are the parents’ responsibilities to their child, so that both of you won’t be overwhelmed with those responsibilities once you entered parenthood and married life.

Well, in my case, even though I became a first time mom at a young age, there were no regrets at all. Since I entered motherhood when I felt that I was ready, and I believed that I already made the most out of my single status. Enjoying your life while you’re single is very important, so that there will be no regrets on your part in the long run, once you’ve decided to tie the knot with your chosen partner. And not to mention, you’ll no longer tell yourself that if you could just turn back time, you will correct the mistake you’ve made, and you’ll make sure that you are just going to walk down the aisle, once you’ve made the most out of your single life and when you’re completely ready.

Moreover, as a first time mother, I really had a hard time adjusting to the new chapter in my life back then since everything was all new to me. There was this one time, when I just gave birth to my daughter, I had no idea at all on how to stop her from crying. I fed her and all since I thought she was just hungry or something.  I did everything I can just to stop her from crying out loud, but still nothing happens. I was really in tears as well while cuddling her, since I thought there was something wrong, if she’s in pain or whatsoever. This is really the hardest thing when taking care of a baby who is below one year old or when your child wasn’t able to express what they actually feel. Back then, it really broke my heart every time I saw her crying when I knew there was really something wrong but I couldn’t do a single thing for her as soon as I can, since I had a hard time figuring it out. And I’m really freaking out every time she was not feeling well or even if she was just having a slight fever.

Becoming a first time mother is not an easy task and it is indeed the toughest job in the world I must say. Nonetheless, it is the most fulfilling thing on earth. Once you felt and seen you’ve done an amazing job of raising your child, it would be the most wonderful feeling you could ever felt in your lifetime. Right now, my daughter is already 4 years old and I just realized how fast time flies. There are still little things I need to work on such as the best strategies for her to eat her healthy meal since all she wants to eat is fried chicken, *lol* and seriously, at times I ran out of idea on how to make her eat those healthy stuffs I prepared for her. And I believe that having a hard time feeding your child with healthy food during this age is normally most mothers would experience.

To top it all off, being a first time mom won’t be as easy as 123, but the joy that you’ve felt and the joy that you’re daughter is giving you is just so overwhelming. The happiness you felt once you’ve become a mom is indeed indescribable and absolutely beyond words.

However, I would say this with conviction, motherhood really requires a higher level of maturity. I need to emphasize maturity since I have read somewhere on the web, that a lot of teenagers would want to be mothers at a tender age, which is very alarming. We have to always bear in mind that there is always a right time for everything. Becoming pregnant at an early age is very unhealthy both on the mother and the unborn child, since they are still in the puberty stage. Just always be in the right track, do the things that you know in your hearts are right, and everything will fall into place. Just enjoy your youth, and don’t rush things.

Searching for ways on how to earn more money online ...

 I have been searching online for ways to earn more money online since honestly, it's really hard to earn a decent amount of money on the internet. I need to find possible ways in order to make a regular income every month and that would be very hard if you work from your home. I did an intense research on the web on how to do it. But there's a particular article that caught my attention, so I immediately read it.

It's not the usual article on earning money online, as a matter of fact it doesn't give ideas at all to its readers on how to earn more money online.  In fairness to the person who wrote it, she pointed out some things on what's the reality of blogging and if there's really truth to what others claiming over the net that indeed, they earn from it. She jotted down there that only a very small percentage of bloggers around the world who make a living from blogging, and majority of bloggers don't earn that much or let's just say, their hard work didn't pay-off in the long run.


However, what I didn't like about the article, as well as the rest of the people who have read it is that, you have to be very great for you to earn money from it or you don't have future at all in blogging if you're not as talented as her in writing, and she has a wrong way of saying it to her readers. It's kind of insulting a person that if you're not as great as her, then you better stop or don't try reaching your dream. She even boasted her achievements, her traffic, how a great writer she is, which is kind of a slap in the face. It's her way of saying that "if you don't have achievements like mine, or you don't have that fantastic writing skills as mine, then you better stop blogging. " As a matter of fact, she received numerous negative comments from that entry. A lot of people were saying that she just wrote that article just to drive traffic to her site, and others said that she is just so mean for saying those kind of things to a person who have read it and just starting to reach his/her dream in the world of blogging, wherein he/she might be discouraged and would give that person a low self-esteem if he/she has still a place in the blogosphere.


Honestly, when I read that post, I was sort of discouraged, but thanks to the majority of people who have commented and they just enlightened me. They have pointed out that you don't have to be  great writer for you to earn money from blogging. All you need is determination, hard work, patience, and you love what you do. If you have the passion for it, then don't stop reaching your dream.


I'm very much willing to work hard so that I could earn more money online. I completely understand that it would really take time to earn a decent amount of money on the web or if you work from your home. So, it really requires  lot of patience and hard work.

I hope you understand me....

I just want to express here what I really felt at the moment. I was talking to my mother over the phone yesterday, and after that conversation, I felt so little. I got hurt not because she scolded me and the like, but as a matter of fact it was just the typical conversation we had every time she called us up. The conversation ended well, however, after we talked I just felt so helpless and discouraged with myself.


I love my mother so much, I owe every thing to her. If not because of her I won't be the person I am now. She is both the mother and the father at the same time. However, all I want is that she will be more sensitive and careful about the words she uttered since even if she never intentioned to hurt me, but the words or comments she used kind of belittled me. There were times as well that she did that and all I want to do is to cry out loud. I don't compete with anyone, even though she don't see my efforts I'm really working hard for my future and most especially for my baby, God knows every thing what's truly in my heart. I don't want to rush things that's why I'm doing things one day at a time.


She has the tendency to control my life and she really wants that I'll be the one to fulfill all her dreams for herself and for our family. I'm very much willing to do every thing I can just to improve our living and to give the things that I believe she would be very happy to have.It's just that, I want her to be realistic, since if you want a particular thing, you can't have that at a certain age, even if you already told yourself, "at the age of 30 I want to achieve this or that or I want to have this or that" since you don't have control of what's going to happen in the future. Yes, I really understand that it really needs a lot of hard work and luck as well, of course with the guidance and the help of God.


All I want is that she would be sensitive on what I actually feel, and let me live my life the way I want. I'm not a bad person, I don't even go out with my friends, and most of the time, I'm just at home. I already considered myself a responsible person. I had corrected the wrong things I've done in the past and because of those things, I became a better person. I'm doing and practicing the things what I believe what's right not just in the eyes of people but most importantly, in the eyes of God.


All I want is that she would just guide me and not totally make a decision for me. "Just let me live my life and let me decide for myself, what career path I should take, and let me achieve my dreams the way I want it. " I want to say it with conviction, I know what are my duties and responsibilities in life, for you, for my family, and for my daughter. Just don't take away my dream to be with my daughter and see her grow. She's my life, my every thing. I don't want to work abroad, since all I want is to try my luck here, no matter how hard it is, as long as I'm with my daughter, that's the most important thing for me. I want to take care of her and be with her when she's going through something. I want her to feel my love. And I can't do these things when I'm far away from her. Please stop insisting that I should work abroad since you believe that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. "


"Mom, you're a great mother, I understand that all you want is the best for us. But always remember that we're not kids anymore. We already know how to make decisions for ourselves, and please don't take that away from us.You have to always ask us what we want to do with our lives and the things we want to do. All you have to do is to give us advices, and make us feel that whenever we fell and made bad decisions in life, you are always there to welcome us with open arms. Please LET US MAKE DECISIONS FOR OURSELVES SO THAT WE WILL GROW AS A PERSON, AND PLEASE DON'T COMPARE US WITH OTHER PEOPLE, WITH THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS, SINCE YOU JUST MAKE US FEEL HOW LITTLE WE ARE. I hope you understand me."

Missed this blog..

The last time I wrote an entry here was a couple of days ago, and I must say, I missed this blog. It always took me a couple of days before I could write again another entry here because as what I've always said, I'm just too busy with work, and other things both online and offline. Well, anyway, I'm just happy since I bought another domain name for my other blog. So, all in all, I have 3 domain names already, and this one is the only blog that is still a blogspot. This blog will remain a blogspot since most of the entries here are too personal, wherein I have no plans of sharing it with other people.

However, I understand that there are a few people that could still read some of my entries here since this blog is visible to public, like people who searched some keywords on search engines and land on my blog, that is of course beyond my control.

Nevertheless, I don't mind if there are still a few people who could read what I've written here, since as far as I know, even if some of my entries here were too personal, I believe that there's no reason for me at all to worry if they have read my rantings in here. But for now, I still don't want to promote this blog to other bloggers, maybe I'll changed my mind once this blog has a higher page rank already.*Lol* I hope this thing would really happen so that I could really make the most of this blog, which is to speak my heart out, and monetizing it at the same time.*Lol.

How fast time flies

I have already mentioned on my previous post that my daughter is now 4 years old. And as what I’ve said how fast time flies. 4 years ago, she was still this tiny angel that was so cute and adorable, that all you can think of is to protect her from anything that may cause her harm, and to give her all the best things that this world can offer. You want to always cuddle her and let her feel your warmth and your love for her. And all you can say was that she is the best thing that ever happened to you, the best gift you ever received from God, and I want to express how I love her with all my heart.

In the coming months (I know it’s a bit late already since a lot of kids are going to school as early as 3 years old), she’s already going to school. Wherein I have some worries on how she would be able to cope with the stress in school, since it’s another environment, and she would be interacting with other people, which is a major change by the way. For the past 4 years of her life, her world revolved around us, that’s why I wonder how she would interact with people that are unfamiliar to her, and how she could cope up with unfamiliar environment as well. Nevertheless, I believe that it won’t be that hard for her to cope up with the changes since my daughter is very sweet and friendly, even to those people she just met. And not to mention, she loves to talk with people. 

However, I couldn’t help but to worry since we all experienced a kind of fear when we were in our very first day in school, back when we were kids. I remembered back then, when I was on my very first day in school, my mother had a hard time convincing me to enter the classroom since everything was all strange to me. She also had a difficult time every moment I sensed that it was already time to go to school, since I’ll start crying and I always said that I didn’t want to go to school. I really had this separation-anxiety that I don’t want to be separated from her, and every time that I was about to enter the classroom, I also want her to be with me inside the room. I know that this kind of thing is pretty normal, that’s why I have worries when my daughter begins to go to school. I don’t want her to experience that kind of fear, because I don’t want to see her having a hard time coping with the changes that are happening to her. I love my daughter very much that’s why as much as possible, I want everything to be a pleasurable experience for her.

As mothers, we have this kind of mind-set that we don’t want to see our children crying or hurting. We always want to see that smile and hear that laughter in them, instead of tears. As much as possible, we always want them to be happy, and to have positive outlook in life.

Anyway, I’m already telling her that she will be going to school very soon, and I can see in her face that she is very excited about it. She even keeps on asking me, when will be the exact date since she is ecstatic about going to school. Seeing that kind of reaction from her really feels so great, since I can tell that she’s looking forward to going to school, which is actually a great indicator as well, that I won’t be having a hard time at all in convincing her to go to school when that day comes.

I'm dissatisfied with Globe Broadband's unlimited surfing

I’ve been using this Globe broadband for almost 2 years now. Back then, I thought using it would be convenient and affordable, since they are offering 20 pesos per hour of browsing on the internet or to break it down, it is 5 pesos per 15 minutes of browsing. But it is per site, which means if ever you are browsing 2 sites within that 15 minutes, it will cost you 10 pesos in 15 minutes of browsing those 2 sites. At that time, I gave it a try since I don’t really use the internet that often since I’m busy with other things, wherein I’ll only be spending 20 pesos if I need to do something online, which I think at that time it was a practical option. And during those times, I believe Globe was the only network that was offering that kind of thing, so I don’t have any options at all but to try what they’re offering on the market.

However, if my memory serves me right, they released this unlimited surfing for 1 day for only 50 pesos some time in 2010. Hearing it really made me excited to try their promo since it’s UNLIMITED in the first place, which means you can surf the internet for 24 hours or anytime you want it.

For the first couple of months of using the promo I could say there was no problem, but the only issue I had with their service was you can’t be able to subscribe to their unlimited surfing once it was passed 9 pm. So if you have something to do very important online on that very day, then you have to register to their unli surf earlier than 9pm, or else you have to register the following day.

But, these past few months, I could say there were a lot of issues that I already encountered using their promo about unlimited surfing. I can say from a scale of 1-10, I will give their service a score of 4, which means lately I’m not already satisfied at all with Globe Broadband. I thought I was the only one who had these problems with them, but I have read some articles and forums that they were dissatisfied as well with the Globe’s unlimited surfing promo, and Globe has received numerous complains about it.

The thing that really irritates me was they are claiming that it was AN UNLIMITED SURFING but how come that you’ll receive a text message, stating that they have disconnected you for the reason that you have reached the maximum browsing sort of thing, and your subscription will continue the following day. This is VERY HASSLE on people like me who are doing something very important online, but because of this Globe fair use policy thing, I can’t be able to do what I supposed to do online. I’m still wondering why they haven’t resolved this issue yet when in fact like I said above, they already received tons of complains about it. Why is it that until now, they haven’t done anything about the complains they are receiving? 

All I can say is that, they have to give the best service they can give to their consumers, and please be honest with the service you’re offering since we really deserve it. If you say it’s unlimited surfing, then, give it to us. Don’t make us believe that you have this unlimited thing, as what you’ve promised on TV commercials, when in fact, it isn’t unlimited at all. After all, we, the consumers are the people responsible why your products are still on the market. So, you have to take good care of your consumers. Listen to all your consumers’ complains, and do all the possible ways just to make everything right.

Right now, I have plans not to use this Globe broadband anymore, since it actually gives me headaches every time they disconnect my internet connection, wherein I can’t do those important things online that needed to be done as soon as possible. Just like now, I can’t be able to register to their unli surf. Every time I register it always says that I’m still registered to unli surf, and I still have to wait for my subscription to end before I could register again, sort of thing. When in fact, my subscription supposed to end this morning, 8 am to be exact. However, it is passed 10pm but still, I couldn’t register to 8888 and actually, I’m wondering why I haven’t received the text message this morning that says my registration to unli surf has ended, hmmm, I smell something fishy here. Anyway, I can’t afford to experience this kind of thing every single day and it’s getting into my nerves. I don’t want to deal with this kind of drama anymore, since time for me is too precious to be wasted. I will just try other internet providers available on the market, wherein I’ll be happy and satisfied with the services they are offering.